Proof in hospital: Albanian girls shutter when return migrants!

Features / return of migrants brings both a peak in summer marriages at the same time and a boom in demand for rivirgjërim or "sewing" required girls forced unaffected by their migrant husbands, who left after a Bangladesh isolated or so to think of them, where women do not leave the house. Gynecologist doctors see every day jaranë misled by the thread connecting again hymen being "born again" virgin girls as if nothing had ever happened before ... A phenomenon that questions the morality of a society that sees itself conservative where it seems that Blood spots on sheets remained strong reference point, but that often is actually "sin" Dual past and the present fraud. He fell on his neck and embraced. "I'm sorry dear, forgive me heart", he said, while that in the eyes of the doctor, behind him showed winked language. Everything happened a few years ago, in the hall of doctor visits gynecologist Mimoza Keta, in which a man had brought the bride a few days after the first night of marriage, because he had found a thread after thread first sexual contact. What should have been a night of love was turned into a nightmarish night. She denied was "tailor". He suspected it had not been a virgin. Brenta doubt so much asked a afërmeje, which knew doktoreshën, to allow a visit. What was going to tune these characters at the moment we can not know, but we may presume to have been dramatic thoughts. He thought sharing, perhaps revenge. She thought persecution or backbiting. Doctor Keta says he refused to visit his wife. Been introduced only in the visiting room and there made a pact: "I got on the horse and saw that it was embroidered. I asked him to be honest with me and promised that her husband would say what she wanted. " Wife has received. I told the doctor that she had pay for rivirgjërinë and she called her husband into the room: "It was a pretty wealthy guy and a very good car for the time," she recalls explaining that he had said that his wife had been virgin. "I told him a red sign, I said that was a sign of virginity" These shows while continuing to laugh even today, several years after what has happened, even though she knows that women continue to shutter and men continue to be the same so insistent fooled by fake virginity ... "Very good cause shutter while men love sewing" drops February lecturer UET, Ermira Danaj, who thinks that fraud in this case is more of a need of patriarchy to do not be shocked by the truth. Qepuni, emigrants are coming! Number of girls "sewing" significantly increase at the beginning of summer and the return from abroad for weddings arranged by correspondence bachelors migration. Director of motherhood "Kico Glozheni" Rubena Moses admits there is an issue in the months of July and August, which however remains conjecture because the visits of this nature never documented. "It is not illegal or legal," says the doctor who says that at a time when there was no administrative duties, there was such demand, but this is the list of interventions that has refused to perform. Moses says that even by fellow doctors know that the demand increases in the summer and this is mainly due to immigrants, but however no official statistics. "Although the media often reported numbers, they have been more hesitation, after all this intervention that lasts from 5 to 10 minutes is not registered in any country", - says the doctor. She says that it is impossible even to control the process, there is no need for major expenditure or conditions. It can happen in a simple room visit and recorded as a normal visit to registers, and the doctor who performs it needs just a few minutes, a needle and a thread. However, according to Moses from discussions with colleagues and from the information gathered in the conversation, it can be assumed that in moments of returning migrants has a higher number. "Immigrants have long gone, where are found liberal society and they themselves have relationships with many different women, but when it comes to marry require that she be a virgin, come in Albania think of a place as they left "she explained further. Mimoza doctor These claims an increase in the number of those seeking to rivirgjërohen in the summer, before returning migrants. According to her, however, the numbers are declining even though this may mean it only on a conjecture and personal experience and not on actual data. Moses is not against the fact that Albanians come to marry Albanian. To the fact that they come from immigration and require an Albanian girl on life is positive, but beyond that their demands for new bride are discriminatory. "Those people have probably had sex with other women, why not ask the girls to which they relate not have had a life of their own," says the doctor. "She was not nervous?!" * A year ago, an Albanian living in the U.S. be interested in an online forum on health (steadyhealth.com), if its boiling which already had a child, had been a virgin or not. The boy claims to be 28 years old, he was married to matchmakers, she had sworn she was a virgin, but just as our character at the beginning of the article on the first night, that things had seemed strange. "I am 28 years old and in 2010 went to Bangladesh to get married; was an arranged marriage, I had never met before and the girl assured me several times that it was a virgin, but the first night we had intercourse I noticed that she was not nervous ... "he writes in the forum. There are more than one post on the same topic but from him under the pseudonym "india". In the end he "accepts" that was not already important to the woman who had become a father, had been a virgin or not, but his story begins on suspicion of first night and next with a trip back to Albania , during which he decides to investigate his wife's life, its meetings, cafes that had been drinking with other guys and a bunch of rumors of mutual acquaintances. More than once she denies rich history, but the more he insists learn a "real" does not bring anything more than suspicion. In the middle is always a cousin who has learned from someone, that his wife had gone out once with someone and maybe ...?! Why care about him? By the end, the attack of the other poster in the same forum, he insists that it is important not virginity, yet adds: "If you're right, I can overcome this if I can not unlearn, after now I am almost sure that she was a virgin ... or if there were later will mean when me realize that I do not care about this ... ". More than a boy who does not care if his wife was a virgin or not, it seems a fix for this. Someone left between the two worlds. What an Albania where all the talk about virginity as a value without which a woman is a "bitch", and the place where he lives and where such attitudes mocked, scorned or not taken into consideration. It will at the same time be sexually advanced American and at the same time, the man with the mustache from ear to ear with a woman in her life there was only him and never touched, nor has another coveted. And ultimately, the more likely it is neither one nor the other. If the wife has not cheated on virginity, will probably come a day that will put the horns and he never found out if she would be nervous in bed ... Virgins s'gjenden "I do not understand what they need virgin when tomorrow or day after tomorrow it could betray them and they will not have any opportunity to distinguish this" doctor says Moses, while talking to some men depreciation rate. "Pressure forces men women and shutter as they want blood on the first night, in sheets, here we were, what you gained from this?" Said Dr. believes that the launch of such a relationship in terms of confidence and simultaneously fraud is not a good sign for the new family. For more according to her, should çmësohen immigrants with the idea that Albania is virgins reserves. According to a study made in Tirana gymnasiums show that the number of girls who lose their virginity before they finish high school is increasing. 62 percent of teenagers, according to research conducted by them, had sexual intercourse before the age of 18. Study in five high schools in Tirana has also shown a number of "terrific" relationship in an earlier time. "15-20 percent of girls have had sexual contacts before age 13 years," says Moses. She requiring immigrants from Albanian girls, and have consumed countless sexual relationships with foreign they see as liberal, and even mburrin this is completely out of time for now Albania. Pedagogen UET, studying gender relations, Ermira Danaj, this is simply an expression of patriarchy that appears in dozens of other forms, but it begins with virginity. "Exclusivity of ownership over the years has been translated with the preservation of virginity virginity exclusively for men. While this franchise is not required for men, because in the context of male dominance, being male does not need to demonstrate anything, nor is honest, nor is virgin, just enough is being male "she says. Like Moses gynecologist Mimoza These views as absurd requirement that was done girls, according to them, in many cases it is impossible to be completed even biologically. Welcome deception For Danaj this is the only solution that remains before men seeking women adamantly that they are virgins. In conversation going she explains that in this case, even though we are dealing with a fraud is a deception search of gënjyerve. "What unfortunately happens is that as long as these problems do not rattle male dominance, such as violence, or the lack of communication, the situation looks as normal and not a big concern. While rivirgjërimi looks like a "big rig". Rivirgjërimi is actually a "trick" to please a better society accepts such "trick" than the existing patriarchal structure shock, "she said. Moses by her side is not ready to endorse or girls' behavior in this case. Director of "Kico Gliozheni", says he understands the girls, but they should take more responsibility and maybe give up a man who wants things that can not, and even after his offer. "I know that they have a large hall, but it seems very unfair to start life with a trick and did not seem to help doing this" she explains, and says he has occasionally raised his voice similar phenomena that primarily discriminate against women, ranging from abortion of female fetuses to "sewing". "I said to the girl, if you're going to start the life with a trick, it is not a good thing, but it is your choice," the doctor recalled Mimoza Keta. She explains that her husband deceived not just for female solidarity, but lied because the doctor can not betray the patient and can not draw anything that teaches him or his body to visit. It means that a good portion of girls do it associated with someone else, which in many cases is the mother, but doing it secretly massively in private clinics, where opportunities for recognition are even smaller. According Danaj such cases come after today we have a great clash of values. "Because we have a patriarchal tradition carried over the years, while we have a tremendous information through which this tradition is questioned. Talk from one side to the value of virginity, but on the other hand is discussed and the rights of women and girls to be free to decide for themselves what they want to do with their life not wanting to be owned " she says. According Danaj rivirgjërimi is but another form of violence against women. "The issue of rivirgjërimit shows that today we have more need than ever to throw into question the values ​​of our society, and not to maintain a" moral "bogus. Unfortunately, as long as we will continue to consider her as inferior, fragile, property of the husband, being destined to marry only to bear children, will encounter cases such as rivirgjërimi (that is not nothing but a form of symbolic violence against girls and women), or continuous physical rape them, "she said. Blood on the sheets ... It is certain that if a man insists get a virgin woman, he is likely to have it if it false virginity. What he will not ever find out is that virginity has received and blood on the sheets have not happened for the first time. Doctors, but also sociologists claim that foremost for those who insist on the bride's virginity is not whether she is indeed a virgin, but the signs that it is such. Doctors say that a good portion of women with a percentage ranging over 50 percent have a hymen (a sign of virginity) and another elastic hymen crack suffer not in what it called Vaza blood and thus have a free virginity loss Blood. And this is a big problem. Can be endless silent victims of prejudice and libel or failed marriages of this virginity that runs in silent mode. Many Albanian men want by doctor Rubena Moses still show the cloth with the stain of blood although there are times that this is not disclosed in the window. What according to doctors is a normal physical condition of women for a lot of people can be a moral disaster, perhaps for this reason there are a number of other men or mother-in-law going to do a verification before the link to go to the wedding. These Mimoza doctor admits that there have been cases where it is required to verify if the girl was a virgin or not, but according to her they are not as numerous as the number of those seeking to rivirgjërohen. She says many times tried not distract disturb girls seeking something like this, but suspect that even though they may have received before that he would not seek rivirgjërimin not going to do it in a clinic or an another doctor. The reason according to her is the sign of blood on the sheets. Maybe a girl is not a virgin natural stitching, but unlike what can be really virgin sewing guarantees (doctors do) that would have a blood stain on the sheets. While in the case of a naturally virgin girl, but with an elastic hymen, blood stains is impossible, according to the doctor a lot of them must have suffered during pressured or forced by their silence that was not found "virgin ". Men with namuz in fact, those who have urged or those coming down the plane at Rinas these summer months in search of virgins shall have learned this in school and more maybe someone needs to know that the blood stains sheets is a dud free and paid. Threading does not cost What makes the phenomenon completely easy are the prices. If in the West, where they said the demand produced by the daughter of immigrant families like many countries lack not conservative, payments range from 200 euro cheapest mainly in Eastern European countries up to 4500 euro in Austria, as it is a plastic intervention for therefore costly. Meanwhile in Albania "virginity" costs a lot less. "Generally taken as much money as it costs a normal visit (from 1 thousand to 3 thousand new), but it happens that they do not get money they do not have," said Mimoza Keta. While private clinics cost can be even higher, but probably not reach the floor fees of 200 euros, which applies a doctor in Prague. It seems makes easily accessible rivërgjërimin so as there are joke for women who are forced to do it more than once. Doctor claims that such cases may occur, but this is due to a technical problem. If the "onions", then the time to first sexual intercourse can not be longer than a week. "Thread they are, if it passes a time cut off and sewing should remake or not appear to be a virgin" says the doctor. It seems that a man is not easy to admit that his new wife is fair, even though it may not have bleeding due to a flexible virginity membrane as doctors explain, and certainly get fair without any hint that bought this membrane for maximum 5 thousand new. However, such families can be happy for a while. Dr. Keta says that a year later, although there had been and seemed uncomfortable, waited in the hospital again the new couple beginning of this story. This time they went there to bring to life their child. Child of a marriage of "stitching" trick, but it seems that until then had worked. "I do not know what went later, but apparently I had heard other children and continue to be married," said Dr. smoothly, maintaining not give details about their identity and remembering occasionally husband scene The longing of his wife to forgive him that was put to a hard test and violation of the latter's eye.